How Will I Feel When I'm Leaving a Hijackal®?
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
HOW WILL I FEEL WHEN I'M LEAVING A HIJACKAL?
Whether that person has passive-aggressive, narcissistic, antisocial, borderline, or histrionic behaviors or tendencies, you need to know that you're going to have a totally mixed bag of opposing feelings on the day--and for a few weeks after--you leave. It's natural and normal.
Leaving a toxic situation can be a double-edged sword: there is freedom and peace, and there is anxiety and loss. You'll experience both.
Toxic people, Hijackals®, are looking for power and control over you. Because you are a good person, a loving, compassionate person, you were chosen by the Hijackal. Now, you're choosing health, peace, well-being, and self-esteem for yourself and your children. That's why you have made the decision to leave, and I know you've thought a lot about it.
You likely thought for a long that, if only you would go the extra mile, be long-suffering, or justify, rationalize, or excuse the bad behavior, the Hijackal would relax, change, even love you. You thought that, with enough love and patience, s/he would change. Hijackals don't change...for the better!
Today, I want you to know what to expect when you are leaving, and just after. I'm using my personal story because it taught me a whole lot. I hope it helps you, too.
Leaving is not easy except where there is sexual or physical abuse. Even then, some people stay longer than is healthy. Now, you're on your way to a new life. Yahoo!
A few highlights of today's episode:
- It's normal to be scared.
- It's natural to second-guess your decision.
- You will live.
- You'll do the samba: two steps forward and one back many times.
- You'll live.
- Things will get better.
- You will walk through SO many emotions, but keep walking!
- You'll live...lol.
Are you ready to be free of this? To stop questioning your sanity and second-guessing yourself? GREAT!
Hijackals are toxic people who create toxic relationships! You are being poisoned. You are NOT the poison that the Hijackal insists you are.
I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.
Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.
I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,
The Relationship Help Doctor
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