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2019-12-11

Healing Brain Fog, Fatigue & Depression Naturally GUEST: Dr. Brindusa Vanta

Ep. 95

GO WITH YOUR GUT! How many times have you heard that?

Sure, most folks are talking about intuition and gut feelings, but did you know that the seat of health is in your gut, your microbiome?


Worth knowing, right? Better yet, and more worth knowing, is learning about taking good care of your microbiome to encourage health, in every way.


Dr. Brindusa Vanta has used her training as a medical doctor, and her vast interest and research, to understand the foundations of health, and how to return to it when it seems to be seeping away. She shares these findings with you, and helps you to find a path to better health. Fabulous!


Depressed? Anxious? Feeling like you can't think straight and everything's a bit fuzzy?

Dr. Vanta shares five important considerations for overcoming depression, and her four mindset shifts for overcoming disease in general. Yahoo! Only four. You can do that, right?


Because I help people who are--or, have been--experiencing toxic relationships, I asked Dr. Vanta about the effects of toxic relationships on the body and mind. In particular, I asked about the link between toxic relationships and the development of autoimmune diseases. You want to be very mindful of this. The sooner you leave the toxic situation, the sooner you can heal.


Got inflammation? You'll want to hear the psychoneurology and mind-body connections that can be involved. Let's all stop triggering inflammation now!


Listen in. You, your body, and your relationships will benefit from spending this time learning from Dr. Brindusa Vanta.

_________________________________


>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

___________________________________


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • What is included in "natural medicine?"
  • What is homeopathy?
  • How is brain health related to physical health?
  • What can happen to a body in a long-term toxic relationship?
  • What can I do to stop triggering inflammation in my body?
  • What are Dr. Vanta's four steps to overcoming disease?
  • What supplements does Dr. Vanta suggest for improving brain health?
  • What can you do that is both natural and helpful for overcoming depression?


GUEST: DR. BRINDUSA VANTA


Dr.Vanta graduated from a top medical school in Romania in 2001, with a wealth of knowledge and a strong belief that the use of prescription drugs is the only solution for overcoming diseases.


After moving to Canada, she was keen to get her MD license. Despite several obstacles, she successfully passed the tests required to apply for a Canadian license. While she was in a lengthy process of getting into the residency program in 2005, a personal event made her explore nutrition and alternative medicine.


She then enrolled in an advanced program for physicians at the Ontario College of Homeopathic Medicine in Toronto.

In 2008, she got involved in medical research focused on natural therapies and shifted her focus from conventional medicine to alternative medicine.


Dr.Vanta’s mission is to help people transform their health and vitality using the power of nutrition and natural medicine.

She is a medical researcher who makes use of latest and scientific studies on brain health and provides one on one consultations to clients from around the world.


Key area of expertise: brain health and how to supercharge your brain.Naturally.


FREE GIFT FROM DR. VANTA:

Test your brain health. Take her free quiz at DrVanta.com


CONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRINDUSA VANTA:

Website: DrVanta.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @DrBrindusaVanta5918

Facebook: @Dr-Brindusa-Vanta

Instagram: @ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCA

Twitter:  

YouTube: 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#autoimmunedisease #overcomingfatigue #drbrindusavanta #drvanta #brainfog #healingdepressingnaturally #naturalmedicine #triggeringinflammation

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-12-11

Healing Brain Fog, Fatigue & Depression Naturally GUEST: Dr. Brindusa Vanta

Ep. 95

GO WITH YOUR GUT! How many times have you heard that?

Sure, most folks are talking about intuition and gut feelings, but did you know that the seat of health is in your gut, your microbiome?


Worth knowing, right? Better yet, and more worth knowing, is learning about taking good care of your microbiome to encourage health, in every way.


Dr. Brindusa Vanta has used her training as a medical doctor, and her vast interest and research, to understand the foundations of health, and how to return to it when it seems to be seeping away. She shares these findings with you, and helps you to find a path to better health. Fabulous!


Depressed? Anxious? Feeling like you can't think straight and everything's a bit fuzzy?

Dr. Vanta shares five important considerations for overcoming depression, and her four mindset shifts for overcoming disease in general. Yahoo! Only four. You can do that, right?


Because I help people who are--or, have been--experiencing toxic relationships, I asked Dr. Vanta about the effects of toxic relationships on the body and mind. In particular, I asked about the link between toxic relationships and the development of autoimmune diseases. You want to be very mindful of this. The sooner you leave the toxic situation, the sooner you can heal.


Got inflammation? You'll want to hear the psychoneurology and mind-body connections that can be involved. Let's all stop triggering inflammation now!


Listen in. You, your body, and your relationships will benefit from spending this time learning from Dr. Brindusa Vanta.

_________________________________


>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

___________________________________


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • What is included in "natural medicine?"
  • What is homeopathy?
  • How is brain health related to physical health?
  • What can happen to a body in a long-term toxic relationship?
  • What can I do to stop triggering inflammation in my body?
  • What are Dr. Vanta's four steps to overcoming disease?
  • What supplements does Dr. Vanta suggest for improving brain health?
  • What can you do that is both natural and helpful for overcoming depression?


GUEST: DR. BRINDUSA VANTA


Dr.Vanta graduated from a top medical school in Romania in 2001, with a wealth of knowledge and a strong belief that the use of prescription drugs is the only solution for overcoming diseases.


After moving to Canada, she was keen to get her MD license. Despite several obstacles, she successfully passed the tests required to apply for a Canadian license. While she was in a lengthy process of getting into the residency program in 2005, a personal event made her explore nutrition and alternative medicine.


She then enrolled in an advanced program for physicians at the Ontario College of Homeopathic Medicine in Toronto.

In 2008, she got involved in medical research focused on natural therapies and shifted her focus from conventional medicine to alternative medicine.


Dr.Vanta’s mission is to help people transform their health and vitality using the power of nutrition and natural medicine.

She is a medical researcher who makes use of latest and scientific studies on brain health and provides one on one consultations to clients from around the world.


Key area of expertise: brain health and how to supercharge your brain.Naturally.


FREE GIFT FROM DR. VANTA:

Test your brain health. Take her free quiz at DrVanta.com


CONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRINDUSA VANTA:

Website: DrVanta.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @DrBrindusaVanta5918

Facebook: @Dr-Brindusa-Vanta

Instagram: @ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCA

Twitter:  

YouTube: 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#autoimmunedisease #overcomingfatigue #drbrindusavanta #drvanta #brainfog #healingdepressingnaturally #naturalmedicine #triggeringinflammation

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-12-4

Overcoming the Heartbreak Of and For Foster Kids - GUEST: Richard Villasana

Ep. 94

You've likely heard so much in the news about the separation of children from their families at the United States borders.

Children kept in cages.

Overcrowding conditions that don't seem to improve.


And, the issues of children being placed in foster homes for their own safety has always been with us.


HOW DO WE MAKE THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM WORK WELL IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF CHILDREN AND FAMILIES?


That's the big, ongoing question. Today, my guest, Richard Villasana, helps us understand what the actual realities are for both children separated from their families at the US Border, and children separated from their families because their parents cannot--and sometimes should not--be caring for them,


You likely have a thought about the foster care system. Sad stories about the foster care system make their way into television dramas we enjoy watching. It makes us aware of the feeling of foster children. Recently, for instance, on Grey's Anatomy, two main characters bonded over a newly-discovered shared history of having been in foster care. It makes it more real for everyone to understand, and I applaud the writers of these shows for being socially conscious!


Richard Villasana is a leading light out of what can be a dark hole for many. This, of course, has been exacerbated by recent years of high-profile stories about the immigration difficulties and the separation of children from their families at the US border. So many children in such a short time...in cages. We've all seen it on the news. I have friends who have gone to the border to see exactly what is happening, and it is all very real, unfortunately.


I asked Richard Villasana why we hear that some children may never see their parents again, after having crossed the border. Of course, I am very concerned about emotional trauma and long-lasting emotional damage that these sad situations can create, and I asked Richard about how it is addressed. An equally sad answer!

See the Highlights below for the questions I made sure to ask him.


Listen in and learn more. This is very serious for the fabric of our society: that children are being well-cared for, in their best interests and on behalf of their well-being. .


_________________________________

>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • What is actually happening at the border of the United States with children being separated from their families?
  • Will these children ever see their families again?
  • Are mistakes being made in the processing of their families?
  • How is this family separation being addressed?
  • What is the process for finding family for this immigrant children?
  • What is the ideal placement for a foster child?
  • How do we improve foster care?
  • What effect do cultural differences have on the fostering situation?
  • How is the emotional trauma that foster kids too often suffer addressed, especially in the case of immigrant families

?

GUEST: RICHARD VILLASANA


Richard Villasana, founder of Forever Homes for Foster Kids, is a leading international authority on immigration issues and foster families. A proud Navy veteran,


Richard has been featured on CNN International, Univision, AP News, ABC TV, Costco Connections, Washington Post, and EFE, the world’s largest Spanish language media company. He is a olumnist with Foster Focus Magazine and an international speaker. He was honored as a California Hero. He has also translated for the United Nations.


For 25 years, his non-profit has worked with government agencies across the country reuniting immigrant and foster children with their families.


FREE GIFT FROM RICHARD VILLASANA: Not at this time.


CONTACT INFO FOR RICHARD VILLASANA:

Website: ForeverHomesforFosterKids.org

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @RichardVillasana

Facebook: @FimilyFindingMX

Instagram: @ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCA

Twitter:  @FamilyFindingMX

YouTube: 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#fosterkids #kidsseparatedattheborder #inhumaneimmigration #reunitingfosterkids #foreverhomesforfosterkids #richardvillasana

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-11-30

What's the Relationship Between Autoimmune Conditions & Emotional Well-being GUEST: Sharon Sayler

Ep. 93

Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?


You betcha!


Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!


When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.


As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.


Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.


It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.


Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.


DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.


GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com


Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.


She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What is the connect between intention and physical health
  • How to think about what you think about that might need changing
  • Sharon's experience with her own medical journey
  • Compliance vs non-compliance as patients
  • The power of the mind and the decision to put yourself first
  • Taking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditions


CONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLER

Website: UnderstandingAutoimmune.com

Twitter:  @SharonSayler

Facebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSayler

Instagram: Instagram.com/SharonSayler


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune

2019-11-20

How to Forgive Who Broke Your Heart GUEST: Terri Levine

Ep. 92

FORGIVENESS! It sounds right. Sounds good.

But, what does it really mean to forgive someone?


On Emotional Savvy, I'm often talking about those relentlessly difficult, toxic people that I call #Hijackals®. #Narcissists are #Hijackals, and they will do all they can to have power over you in every way, and exert control wherever they can. My guest, Terri Levine, has encountered them, and she talks about the terror.


You may have experienced the terror of being in relationship with a narcissist. Today's episode will really help you.


Would you like to be able to forgive?

Why is it important to you to forgive a toxic person?


As Terri Levine and I talk about her experiences, you may well see your experiences reflected there. As she wrote,


"Every human being is connected to us through our DNA."


How does this affect our interest in, and our ability to forgive?


Listen in and see what this brings up for you.

>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • Is there such a thing as "untrue forgiveness?"
  • What makes the different from true forgiveness?
  • Why does Terri Levine think it is important to forgive toxic people?
  • Is there any reason to embrace toxic people?
  • What does Terri Levine think the steps to forgiveness are?
  • What does our DNA have to do with it?


GUEST: DR. TERRI LEVINE


Terri Levine (SAY Luh-VEEN) is the founder of Heart-repreneur® and is a business and executive coaching expert. She assists businesses worldwide with business growth, sales, and marketing. She has more than 40 years of business experience, encompassing work with more than 5,000 business owners and entrepreneurs in a variety of industries. She is also a best-selling author of dozens of titles, has her own radio and TV show and is also a keynote speaker.


Terri has a passion for helping businesses to grow with her own personal experience gained while building multiple successful businesses from the ground up. Terri has created the Heart-repreneur® cause teaching business owners to do business heart-to-heart.


Her latest book is her autobiography which teaches her process of forgiveness that has healed her and hundreds of others.


FREE GIFT FROM TERRI LEVINE:

Visit AboutToBreakBook.com


CONTACT INFO FOR DR. TERRI LEVINE:

Website: Heartrepreneur.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @TerriLevine

Facebook: @HeartrepreneurTerriLevine

Instagram: @MentorTerri

Twitter:  @MentorTerri

YouTube: 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#TerriLevine #AboutToBreak #trueforgiveness #whobrokeyourheart #dealingwithtoxicpeople #Heartrepreneur

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-10-30

HUGGING! Helpful, Healing, or Back Off! GUEST: Dr. Stone Kraushaar

Ep. 91

HUGGING? Love it? Hate it? Only for really close people? Hug everybody?


Big questions! Hugging has had a renaissance in the last twenty years, and has even found its way into corporate culture. Should it be there? Is it appropriate?


I know people have some strong feelings about hugging. How about you?

This conversation with Dr. Stone covers all the bases of hugging how's, why's, and why not's.


According to Healthline.com :


"Hugs may boost your heart health.

Hugging can be good for your heart health. In one study, scientists split a group of about 200 adults into two groups:

  • One group had romantic partners hold hands for 10 minutes followed by a 20-second hug with each other.
  • The other group had romantic partners who sat in silence for 10 minutes and 20 seconds.

People in the first group showed greater reductions in blood pressure levels and heart rate than the second group.

According to these findings, an affectionate relationship may be good for your heart health."


What does hugging do for you?

Well, aside from the "feel good" aspects of it, Dr. Stone says great benefits are that it brings acceptance and connection. He tells us how a 20 second hug can actually do good--measurably good--things for our health.



HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • Why have we replaced the handshake with the hug so often?
  • Do we need permission to hug?
  • Should others ask before hugging us if they are not very close to us?
  • Why would you not hug?
  • What the heck are "cuddle parties?"
  • How can a person use hugging if they are not with other humans at the moment?
  • Hugging in the workplace???



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: DR. STONE KRAUSHAAR


Dr. Stone is a psychologist and therapeutic coach completely taken by the power of hugs and the difference they can make for each of us individually and in the world. AKA the The Hug Doctor, he passionately professes there really are no strangers - we all share a profound connection.


The Hug Doctor wants nothing more than for each of us to live a life full of joyful hugging that includes hugging ourselves, hugging our families, hugging our friends and hugging the world. He is a staunch advocate for longer hugs and more meaningful and inspirational hugs. Some hugs are literal while others are metaphorical.


He says the hug is a brilliant tool for knocking down walls within ourselves as well as those that divide us from each other. You will catch him on 21-day hugging journeys and inspiring others about what we can create together in the ‘space of a hug.’




FREE GIFT FROM DR. STONE:

Not at this time, but he suggests you give away hugs!



CONTACT INFO FOR DR. STONE KRAUSHAAR:

Website: TheHugDoctor.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @DoctorKToday

Facebook: @DrStoneK

Instagram: @the_hugdoctor

Twitter:  @DrKToday

YouTube: 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#huggingenthusiast #hugsforhealing #DrStone #helpfulhugs #huggingtherapy #thehugdoctor

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-10-23

Solving Invisible Issues for Women Leaving the Military GUEST: Ariel Shivers-McGrew

Ep. 90

We are grateful for a woman's service in the military.

We need to consider the issues a woman faces when leaving the military, and re-entering civilian life.

Those of us who have not served need to understand these issues because we can help.


I asked my guest, Ariel Shivers-McGrew, what the greatest benefit she received from being a woman in the military. Her answers may surprise you! And, they were positive! Now, she helps women understand and solve the issues of re-entry into civilian life.


Re-entry can be difficult:

  • Finding work.
  • Re-establishing family life.
  • Substance abuse after leaving.
  • Finding a mentor to help with the transition.


A year ago, I found myself with bags of clothing to give away, clothing that reflected years on stage as a speaker. When I looked for a place to donate it, I was delighted to find that, on that very day, there was a clothing drive for women leaving the military and entering the civilian work force.


I hadn't thought about that need before. Have you?

Even though I haven't served myself, I saw that there were community needs for these women that I was unaware of. Today's guest draws

attention to the unique needs of women leaving the military.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • How do women in the military have to segment their lives?
  • What is the most common career trajectory for a woman leaving the military?
  • Why is this topic of issues facing women leaving the military so important at this time?
  • What are the pitfalls and landmines that military women face when leaving?
  • What about culture shock?
  • What issues do military women face when coming home?
  • How do military women find civilian jobs after their service?



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GUEST: ARIEL SHIVERS-MCGREW


A careerist in the United States Army Reserves, an EOL (Equal Opportunity Liaison), a DARN (duty appointed reenlistment NCO), ASISTer (applied suicide intervention skills trained), primarily responsible for the analysis, development and distribution of intelligence used for information and psychological effect.


I’ve authored two young adult fictions, managed to find myself a lead contributor for a women veteran’s network in an online magazine and recently presented a proposal on Incivility in the workplace and career counselor preparedness in the 21st century as a PhD student.


I’m a former SFL-TAP (transition assistance program) Counselor. I’ve taught women veterans how to start their own business across the Chicagoland area as the Director, Women Vetrepreneurship while simultaneously serving as the Associate Director, Veterans Programs for the Veterans Business Outreach Center at the Women’s Business Development Center for a three-state region (WI, MN, IL).



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2019-10-17

GOOD NEWS! Everyone Doesn't Have to Like You. GUEST: Tonya Hofmann

Ep. 89

Were you brought up with the underlying understanding that, if you were a good person, everyone would like you? Most folks are.

So, you do your level best--even once you're an adult--to be pleasant, agreeable, and interesting so that will happen.

Sometimes, you go the extra mile in hope, right?

And, after you turn yourself into a pretzel, they still withhold approval and interest.


So, today's topic will relieve you of the notion that you are supposed to jump all the hoops that each person sets up, and find a way to get them to like you.


I know, as an adult, you might be able to say "I don't care whether people like me or not."

But, is it the truth that you actually--deep down--FEEL that way?


If so, you may be free of these expectations. If it's not true yet--or, you'd like it to be more true, today's episode offers valuable insights that can help!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • What helped you step around fear and create an international organization?
  • Were you afraid of what folks would think, or say?
  • How did your past promote or prevent you from doing this easily?
  • Why do we focus on others so much, and on what they think?
  • How did you get over the "Everyone Has to Like Me" issue?
  • Why do you need to filter some people out of your life?
  • What are your special "rules" for deciding who to keep in your life and how?



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GUEST: TONYA HOFMANN


-CEO & Founder of the Public Speakers Association & Wowdible

-Globally Sought-After Speaker

-Cover of 5 Magazines

-Best Selling Author of 7 International Books

-Winner of Multiple National and International Industry and Association Awards

-Host of Tonya Hofmann’s Wow TV Show


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