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2019-10-17

GOOD NEWS! Everyone Doesn't Have to Like You. GUEST: Tonya Hofmann

Ep. 89

Were you brought up with the underlying understanding that, if you were a good person, everyone would like you? Most folks are.

So, you do your level best--even once you're an adult--to be pleasant, agreeable, and interesting so that will happen.

Sometimes, you go the extra mile in hope, right?

And, after you turn yourself into a pretzel, they still withhold approval and interest.


So, today's topic will relieve you of the notion that you are supposed to jump all the hoops that each person sets up, and find a way to get them to like you.


I know, as an adult, you might be able to say "I don't care whether people like me or not."

But, is it the truth that you actually--deep down--FEEL that way?


If so, you may be free of these expectations. If it's not true yet--or, you'd like it to be more true, today's episode offers valuable insights that can help!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • What helped you step around fear and create an international organization?
  • Were you afraid of what folks would think, or say?
  • How did your past promote or prevent you from doing this easily?
  • Why do we focus on others so much, and on what they think?
  • How did you get over the "Everyone Has to Like Me" issue?
  • Why do you need to filter some people out of your life?
  • What are your special "rules" for deciding who to keep in your life and how?



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: TONYA HOFMANN


-CEO & Founder of the Public Speakers Association & Wowdible

-Globally Sought-After Speaker

-Cover of 5 Magazines

-Best Selling Author of 7 International Books

-Winner of Multiple National and International Industry and Association Awards

-Host of Tonya Hofmann’s Wow TV Show


FREE GIFT FROM TONYA HOFMANN :

Want to chat with Tonya Hofmann, CEO of Public Speakers Association?

You can by visiting her website.



CONTACT INFO FOR TONYA HOFMANN:

Website: PublicSpeakersAssociation.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @TonyaHofmann

Facebook: @PublicSpeakersAssociation

Instagram: @Tonya_Hofmann

Twitter:  @DebiSilber

YouTube: @TonyaHofmann


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#PublicSpeakersAssociation #TonyaHofmann #wantpeopletolikeme #filterpeopleout

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-10-17

GOOD NEWS! Everyone Doesn't Have to Like You. GUEST: Tonya Hofmann

Ep. 89

Were you brought up with the underlying understanding that, if you were a good person, everyone would like you? Most folks are.

So, you do your level best--even once you're an adult--to be pleasant, agreeable, and interesting so that will happen.

Sometimes, you go the extra mile in hope, right?

And, after you turn yourself into a pretzel, they still withhold approval and interest.


So, today's topic will relieve you of the notion that you are supposed to jump all the hoops that each person sets up, and find a way to get them to like you.


I know, as an adult, you might be able to say "I don't care whether people like me or not."

But, is it the truth that you actually--deep down--FEEL that way?


If so, you may be free of these expectations. If it's not true yet--or, you'd like it to be more true, today's episode offers valuable insights that can help!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • What helped you step around fear and create an international organization?
  • Were you afraid of what folks would think, or say?
  • How did your past promote or prevent you from doing this easily?
  • Why do we focus on others so much, and on what they think?
  • How did you get over the "Everyone Has to Like Me" issue?
  • Why do you need to filter some people out of your life?
  • What are your special "rules" for deciding who to keep in your life and how?



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: TONYA HOFMANN


-CEO & Founder of the Public Speakers Association & Wowdible

-Globally Sought-After Speaker

-Cover of 5 Magazines

-Best Selling Author of 7 International Books

-Winner of Multiple National and International Industry and Association Awards

-Host of Tonya Hofmann’s Wow TV Show


FREE GIFT FROM TONYA HOFMANN :

Want to chat with Tonya Hofmann, CEO of Public Speakers Association?

You can by visiting her website.



CONTACT INFO FOR TONYA HOFMANN:

Website: PublicSpeakersAssociation.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @TonyaHofmann

Facebook: @PublicSpeakersAssociation

Instagram: @Tonya_Hofmann

Twitter:  @DebiSilber

YouTube: @TonyaHofmann


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#PublicSpeakersAssociation #TonyaHofmann #wantpeopletolikeme #filterpeopleout

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-10-11

Becoming Unshakable Even Post-Betrayal GUEST: Dr. Debi Silber

Ep. 88

HAVE YOU EVER FELT BETRAYED?

HAVE YOU EVER FULLY BEEN ABLE TO TRUST YOURSELF OR ANOTHER AGAIN?


This episode looks at different forms of betrayal, including infidelity.

Who typically betrays?


One of the questions I had for my guest, Dr. Debi Silber, was on the topic of parental betrayal. Often, a person doesn't want to think or believe that they were betrayed by their parents. Because of brain development, and culture, we want to--and often need to--believe that our parents had our best interests at heart. That's not always true. #Hijackal parents, for example, only have their own best interests in mind, and their children are simply pawns in the process. Betrayal is real!


What do you think, feel, or do when the person, or people, you trust most in the world are the one's who betray you? A big question we talk a lot about as we define 'betrayal."


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • Why do you numb yourself, or avoid or distract yourself, when things are going very wrong?
  • What can you do to feel or face what really needs your attention?
  • What is Post Betrayal Syndrome?
  • What do you do to experience a Post Betrayal Transformation?
  • What are the five stages you go through--or, can go through--from betrayal to breakthrough?



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: DR. DEBI SILBER


Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute in New York and https://pbtinstitute.com is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith and Jack Canfield.


Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Ladies Home Journal, Woman's World and Glamour to name a few. Her doctoral study led to three discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal.


Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, Dr. Debi has created a proven multi pronged approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.


FREE GIFT FROM DR. DEBI SILBER :

Take the Quiz: Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome?

TAKE IT HERE


CONTACT INFO FOR DR. DEBI SILBER:

Website: PBTInstitute.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @DebiSilber

Facebook: @InspireEmpowerTransform

Instagram: @DebiSilber

Twitter:  @DebiSilber

YouTube: @DebiSilber


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#AfterBetrayal #PostTrauma #drdebisilber #beyondbetrayal #parentalbetrayal #infidelity

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-10-3

Detoxing Life: Home, Health and Heart GUEST: Brianna Wilkerson

Ep. 87

Ever feel overwhelmed? That's all too common, right?

Does it seem to happen too often?


Life is busy. Expectations are high. You feel pushed and pulled by different needs of different people and roles in your life. STRESS!


Today, take a breather and listen in. With my guest, Brianna Wilkerson, a holistic health coach, we're giving you some great tips, strategies, insights, and next best steps to reduce stress, and detox life in all areas. Some ideas here are quick and easy. Others take time and consciousness. AND, they are all helpful.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

  • Why do I say toxic things about myself?
  • Why am I so hard on myself?
  • Why am I not satisfied with my body?
  • How can I focus more clearly on my health?
  • What are the seven "must-haves" for a healthy body?
  • What mindset shifts do I need to create a healthier life?



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: BRIANNA WILKERSON


Brianna Wilkerson is the Founder/CEO of Made Well 345, LLC. She is a Holistic Health & Life Coach with a heart to see women learn what healthy living really means so they can overcome yo-yo dieting, honor their bodies and get a healthy body they love and are proud of.


She is also an Essential Oils Advocate for doTERRA Essential Oils and empowers women to use non-toxic, natural solutions like essential oils for their health and those they love. She is also a Crossfit Level 1 Trainer to further serve women who want to get fit in a way that's functional, fun, and effective.


FREE GIFT FROM BRIANNA WILKERSON :

7 Day Healthy Body Challenge:

Free 7 Day Challenge to learn how you can honor your body and get a healthy body you are proud of.

GET IT HERE.


CONTACT INFO FOR BRIANNA WILKERSON:

Website: MadeWell345.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @Brianna-Wilkerson

Facebook: @MadeWell345

Instagram: @MadeWell345

Twitter:  @MadeWell345

YouTube: @MadeWell345


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#BriannaWilkerson #holistichealthcoach #healthierbody #wanttofeelbetter #detoxmylife

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-9-26

Strong Men AREN'T Controlling! GUEST - Elliott Katz

Ep. 86

Oh, a little--maybe, an understatement--controversy here! You'll want to weigh in in the comments, I'm betting.


Elliott Katz, today's guest, suggests that today's man is confused about his role in a relationship. Could be. What do you think? Of course, we talked about this at length.


When I read Katz' book, Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants, I had big reactions and equally big questions that I could hardly wait to ask him. My sense was that there is a subtext of taking charge in the relationship--and, not always in mutual ways. So, I asked about that. I wanted to know if he could embrace my idea that healthy relationships are built on equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. Hmmmm....interesting conversation!


Katz says,


" Men today have heard a bewildering messages about being a man in a relationship and can't understand why these ideas aren't working and women are so frustrated with them. Elliott Katz shares insights about being a man that many men today weren't taught. Interestingly, women tell men, "These is what I have been trying to tell you all this time."


That sparked a big conversation for sure! I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this episode. Join in and like my Facebook page and comment: https://www.facebook.com/Emotional-Savvy-The-Relationship-Help-Show-2309873335890968/?modal=admin_todo_tour


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • What Elliott Katz means by a "strong man"
  • A controversial view on decision-making for couples
  • Difficulties men have to calibrate the difference between leading and controlling
  • Katz' view on manipulation
  • Threats are not suitable communication



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: ELLIOTT KATZ


Elliott Katz is the author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man that is helping men around the world improve their relationships. It has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa. For men who can't understand why women are frustrated with them, he shows them what they need to do to gain a woman's love and respect and inspire her to be his partner.


FREE GIFT ELLIOTT KATZ :

Not at this time.


CONTACT INFO FOR ELLIOTT KATZ:

Website: ElliottKatz.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elliott.katz.9

Instagram:

Twitter:  

YouTube: 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#ElliottKatz #strongmen #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

2019-9-15

Is Positive Self-Talk Actually Effective? Brain Stuff! GUEST: Dr. Marcia Reynolds

Ep. 85

Is positive self-talk always positive?

is it effective?

Does positive self-talk have any downsides?

Can it always work?


Important questions, and today's guest, Dr. Marcia Reynolds, has given this a tremendous amount of thought and consideration. Such valuable work!


Dr. Reynolds says,

"Rationalizing and defending your behavior keeps you nestled in a safe and suffocating world. Mustering the courage to say, "Yes!" in the face of fear is a great gift to give yourself."


(from her book, OutSmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel.


In today's episode, we talk about conversations with yourself and with others that demonstrate respect, and positive intentions. Why is that so important? Find out. Listen in.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • What it means to "outsmart your brain"
  • What is "The Discomfort Zone"?
  • Why we often prefer a safe, suffocating world
  • When and why positive self-talk is ineffective
  • Three ways to mentally prepare for a difficult conversation
  • What's Dr. Reynolds' AID model and how to use it



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS


Dr. Marcia Reynolds, Master Certified Coach, is fascinated by the brain, especially what triggers feelings of connection, commitment, and possibility. She draws on her research as she helps people make their difficult conversations become a difference-making experience. She has provided executive coaching, leadership and personal development training programs, and keynote speaking in 41 countries.


This highly sought-after behavioral scientist is happily obsessed with uncovering the latest discoveries in neuro/behavioral research and putting them into practical applications. With a doctoral degree in Psychology, and two master’s degrees in Adult Learning and Communications, Marcia’s expertise ranges from holding powerful conversations to activating the emotions of passion and courage at work and at home. Dr. Reynolds is the Training Director for the Healthcare Coaching Institute at Virginia Tech.


She was the 5th global president of the International Coach Federation. She is also faculty for the International Coach Academy in Russia and Create China Coaching in China. She is recognized by the Global Gurus as the #3 coach in the world. Interviews and excerpts from Marcia’s books -- Outsmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel; The Discomfort Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations into Breakthrough; and Wander Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find Contentment and Direction have appeared in many places including Psychology Today, Fast Company, Forbes.com, The Globe and Mail, and The Wall Street Journal.


When you face difficult conversations, Dr. Reynolds can help you flip defensiveness, create rapport, and connect in more meaningful ways. When she has the opportunity to be home, Marcia can often be found hiking the beautiful mountains in Arizona. You can learn more about Dr. Reynolds on her website, www.outsmartyourbrain.com



FREE GIFT FROM DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS :

ebook: From the Pits to the Peak: A new look at making life changes

GET IT HERE.


CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS

Website: OutsmartYourBrain.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @MarciaReynolds

Facebook: @OutsmartYourBrain

Instagram:

Twitter:  @BMarciaReynolds

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MarciaReynolds


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #outsmartyourbrain #drmarciareynolds #positiveselftalk #difficultconversations #preparefordifficultconversation #covisioning

2019-8-29

Helping Troubled Teens Find Their Way and Thrive GUEST: Dr. Brian Licuanan

Ep. 84

Kids don't always grow out of things. They grow through things!

And, you need to be there to see it, understand it, and know what to do to help when things seem to be going sideways!


Today's guest, Dr. Brian Licuanan, and I talk about the difficulties in seeing problems kids want to hide from us, whether we're their parent, grandparent, teacher, or coach. It's very confusing to them because their brain development is not equipped to handle so much of it. Yet, they think they should be able to.


And, you as a parent, maybe think you should know what to do. You may, but if you're like most parents, you do not. You may have some ideas, but how do you get into the tough conversations with your kid?


Often, when you bring up a tough subject like your teen's emotional well-being, you are met with eye-rolling, and a quick escape from the room, right? Don't give up. Today we talk about ways to engage your kid in conversation and about tough things. It's not easy, and it takes perseverance.


You may need to get outside help for your family, too. Dr. Licuanan and I talk about this, and how to know when to reach out.


Today's episode may be just what you need to answer the questions:


"How do I bridge the gap between me and my teen?"

,"What do I need to know about talking with my teen so I can feel helpful rather than feeling helpless?"


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • How to know the difference between enabling, condoning, and actually helping your teen
  • Links between self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and substance abuse
  • What impacts the incidence of eating disorders
  • Why kids are not accessing mental health services...and, why they need to
  • SIGNS parents need to read that their child might be struggling with addiction or mental health issues
  • How parents can take the proper steps to get a child the help needed



>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.


ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?


Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!


___________________________________


GUEST: DR. BRIAN LICUANAN


Dr. Brian Licuanan is an addiction and mental health specialist who serves as the primary therapist at premiere treatment centers, A Better Life Recovery and A Mission for Michael, treating clients with complex mental health disorders and their co-morbidities which often includes substance abuse disorders. Additionally, he successfully treats clients struggling with anxiety, depression, stress management, PTSD, ADHD, and a variety of other severe mood disorders. Furthermore, Dr. Licuanan integrates Solution-Focused, Positive Psychology/Strength-Based, and Motivational Therapies into his treatment planning with clients. Dr. Licuanan received his Ph.D and M.S from the University of Oklahoma and his M.A. from Pepperdine University.


Realizing over 80% of his clients experience sleep deficiency, exacerbating their medical and psychological conditions, he specializes in treating sleep problems through Cognitive Behavioral Treatment for Insomnia (CBT-I) which is known to cure insomnia and has proven to be a highly effective course of treatment for those wanting to stop using sleep medications.


Dr. Licuanan’s M.S in Industrial/Organizational Psychology–a specialized field of study dealing with workplace issues including leadership, work culture, motivation and job satisfaction, allows him to integrate this specialty into treatment for his clients struggling with career-related concerns. He also has helped coach various levels of executives and management on team-building and performance enhancement. Additionally, with his competition background in sports and as an active martial arts competitor, Dr. Licuanan has assisted numerous client athletes develop competitive mindsets, work through mental blocks, increase match readiness, and elevate their performance potentials. Personally, Dr. Licuanan is passionate about educating communities on mental health and addiction and volunteers as lead facilitator for the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) specifically helping families in crisis strategize ways to get loved ones into treatment. Dr. Licuanan has been featured several times on the television talk show The Doctors and is asked to present regularly within the mental health community on addiction, ways to get highly acute clients into treatment, insomnia and sleep strategies.



FREE GIFT FROM DR. BRIAN LICUANAN :

Not at this time.


CONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRIAN LICUANAN:

Website: ABetterLifeRecovery.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: 

Facebook: @ABetterLifeRecovery

Instagram: @ABetterLifeRecovery

Twitter:  @BetterRecovery

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2019-8-20

3 Shifts That Can Make You Unstoppable After Toxic Relationships GUEST: Connie Pheiff

Ep. 83

Wow! Does thinking of yourself as being UNSTOPPABLE light you up? Then, you'll love today's episode!


Connie Phieff was adopted--but she didn't know it until later in life--and lived her young life a bit like Cinderella. Now, you know that's not good, right? Cook, clean, take care of the kids, repeat!


How Connie overcame the pain of her past toxic life to go on and create such amazing accomplishments is inspirational. She became a leader in the community and in her own life in every way.


Yes, not only did she come from a toxic home, but she went on--as most of us do--to marry a toxic person. Oh, no, that didn't stop her, either. That's where she really started developing her recipe for lemonade from all the lemons in life. She knew she needed to cleanse the negativity from life if she wanted the life she envisioned. AND, she did it!


Listen as she shares her story, her vulnerabilities, her tears, and her learning. All this propelled her to the amazing successes she has now!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Why what happened to you in your young life does not have to define your adult life
  • What it takes to turn those lemons into lemonade and succeed
  • How adoption and alienation played into Connie's young life
  • How you can find the confidence to live fully
  • Three top things that make you unstoppable...according to Connie Pheiff



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GUEST: CONNIE PHEIFF


From cleaning houses to filling houses, Connie Pheiff, Philanthropist, Social Venture Entrepreneur, and #BeyondMeToo Activist is the Jewel in the Crown of the Pheiff Group, Inc. With her distinctive voice audiences everywhere know her.


She is blessed from her work as a corporate CEO, award-winning speaker, Podcaster, Mentor, Coach, and author. She is provocative, edgy, and brings a genuine humor to the platform.


Connie is best known as the Unstoppable DIVA; Former Corporate Executive tuned Media Industrialist. Since founding the Pheiff Group, Inc. in 2007, she has become a Social Venture Entrepreneur, producer, and host of the Connie Pheiff Show; and founder of Talent Concierge, representing the World’s most daring minds. She has authored five business books, and coming soon is her most powerful book yet, about her Unstoppable life. She is the former CEO of Girl Scouts of Penn’s Woods Council, Recipient of the Community Leadership Award (2016); and most recently received the Inspirational Woman in Media Award (2019); and Finalist for the 2018 Indie Author Legacy Award. Insights Success Magazine calls her “a symbol of Exemplary Entrepreneurship.” Connie always shares a bit of herself; a life of spectacularly epic fails. Through it all, her success hasn’t come in spite of her failures, but because of them.


FREE GIFT FROM CONNIE PHEIFF :

Connie is happy to give you an autographed copy of her book, Marketing Masters. If you'd like to have one, email Connie at Connie@PhieffGroup.com


CONTACT INFO FOR CONNIE PHIEFF:

Website: talent.concierge.co

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WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

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Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

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Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


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