What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GUEST: Jeff Jones

Wed Aug 22 2018 (46:39)

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family G

GUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach.


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame

Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!

You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?

Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.

Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!

Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.

GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional

Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.

After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.


  • Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery process
  • Why a "recovery message" is important to create
  • Understanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recovery
  • The importance of knowing the natural recovery process
  • How to be aware of warning signs of addiction

Listen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.

The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!

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