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59: Tracy Dennis-Tiwary – The Ultimate Form of Avoidance

In episode 59, Tracy Dennis-Tiwary joins us for a thoughtful discussion around how parent-child relationships are impacted by technology use. She dives into the details of how the human eyes have evolved to function in social settings, tracking eye movements and sharing gaze with others—and how technology can disrupt that communication.


Dr. Tracy Dennis-Tiwary is a professor of psychology, clinical psychologist, and digital mental health expert. She was recently featured on ABC’s Screentime, looking at the proliferation and consequences that mobile devices have on daily life. Her research mainly focuses on teen and adolescent wellness and what role technology plays in the struggles that today’s youth face.


Some Questions I Ask:

·     How does your work relate to technology? (3:59)

·     What are some examples of the productive ways that young people can use technology to ameliorate the problem? (9:58)

·     What impact does guilt around technology use have on parent-child relationships? (18:17)

·     How can parents repair their relationship with technology use? (24:44)

·     What suggestions do you have for parents to start managing their technology use? (34:29)


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

·     Strategies for answering your phone while talking with someone face-to-face. (1:11)

·     How research supports the notion that technology contributes to stress and anxiety in youth. (7:08)

·     How to create a path for youth to change unhealthy technology habits. (10:48)

·     How to navigate the space between reaction and action when it comes to combating automatic habits around technology. (14:08)

·     About an experiment used to study how technology impacts parent-child relationships. (21:01)

·     How humans’ eyes have evolved to highlight the importance of shared gaze as part of communication. (30:19)


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